“Nothing is more tiring in life than having to constantly explain yourself” – this is absolutely true. While one may willingly or unwillingly explain oneself to others but when it comes to someone who is extremely close, you expect them to understand you without the need for any explanation at all! It is not that we take the one’s who love us for granted, it is beacause we know that they understand and know us beyond our tangible self – they have a clear understanding of our thoughts and actions and the reasons for those actions.

The fact is that we can take them for granted because we know that they would not feel that they are being taken for a ride. We know they would readily accept our faults and failures and be bold enough to push us onto the correct path without us asking them.

This is what a healthy relationship is. You give space, you give support and you give strength. A beautifully written article and I whole-heartedly agree with each and every word of it. Welcome back!

what an amazing read…”I need a relationship where I can afford to be transparent and do not have to alter my likes and dislikes,in order to gain and retain the relationship” if a relationship demands such things its totally unnecessary to pursue…in most of the cases , these superficial layers of ‘so called’ change oneself to impress are the commonest mistakes people do without realizing that ultimately truth WILL be out…and then the consequences are heartbreaks. I totally believe in giving all you have when in a relationship without inhibitions and fear of loosing the person ’cause where there’s love, nothing else matters, maybe that’s what love is…..to accept someone…with open arms and understanding each other at a level where superficial layers are vanished.

I relate to your emotions, but sometimes you just do something that needs an explanation.. More than the person you expect to understand… sometimes, you just want to explain yourself… your actions… because when you don't… it keeps going on and on in your partners head… what happened.. and why… I feel that explaining is a natural phenomena and it should only be given when required… that is, when you yourself think that you need to explain your actions.

And when you do something that needs to be expaained, you are the one who will initiate it.

Lets not act in a manner that leaves behind a tail of doubt… and suspicion… hurt and betrayal…

@ Uthfull : thanks
yes indeed there has to be transparency as well as enough space for each other to live their own meaningful life.

thanks for giving me an oppurtunity to share my writings.

@ Manushi :”cause where there’s love, nothing else matters, maybe that’s what love is…..” very well said.

accordind to me : Love,mutual understanding,trust and the freedom to express yourself are the four pillars of a relationship,even if one fails then it becomes very difficult.

@ Silhouette : very true.
i had this attitude “never be the first one to explain and never be the first one to complain” but now i guess,i have changed.explanation is needed at times,if not things snowball into something,which becomes very difficult to bring back things to normalcy.

Lovely post man. Really good how you talked about this.. well written

nice wrk…we move around lookin for luv and wen find it..its so de,andin and wats answers for everything happenin..tiresome and irksome…nice way of potrayin the thoughts…

Hmm… very thoughful.. Its tough to find such a relationship but not impossible…
I think wht matters in a relation is intimacy.. knowing each other’s imperfections and loving them as well… At the end of the day one remembers imperfections always.. so if u are in a relation where no matter what happens u are loved.. defiantely a great feeling.. i wish we find such mates and work hard on keeping such relations alive.. I dnt believe in soulmates.. I believe its always two people who make it work

God Bless you with you Preity Zinta

beautiful and so so true… being constantly compared and judged can kill you slowly

Amen to that! May every seeker find what he/she is looking for. And may everyone seek such noble qualities than go looking for qualities best described as unimportant in the longer run
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